Fiona Duncan-Steer, founder of RSViP Business Networking Agency, offers useful tips on avoiding burnout.
In an ideal world, we would anticipate burnout and illnesses so that we have time to make changes to try to prevent them. However, nine times out of ten we don’t realise we are in the ‘burnout phase’ until it is too late, and therefore from my own personal experience of having to learn the hard way, I have put together ten of my top tips for avoiding burnout…
- Be self-aware – No one knows your body and mind like you do, so if something doesn’t feel right, you feel off or are aware that you are heading towards the danger zone, then the first rule is recognising this, so that you at least have a fighting chance at doing something about it to turn it around, before it’s too late.
- Be realistic – Following on from tip number one, we would ideally manage our stress every day, sleep like babies and live an ultra-healthy lifestyle, wandering around with smug looks on our faces knowing that our bodies are temples and nothing can touch us. However the reality is we are all just doing the best we can and our best is all we can do, so as long as we are taking steps in the right direction and not putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves (which could cause more stress) then that is good enough.
- Prevention is better than cure – This age old saying is a good’n and one which still stands today, given that living a healthy, relatively stress free lifestyle has been scientifically proven to give a better quality and longer life span, so be aware of what you put into your body, keep moving, drink plenty of water, get outside every day in the fresh air and nourish yourself with whatever it is you need – every day.
- You are what you eat – I’m totally guilty of skipping meals when on the go. Back-to-back meetings are the norm these days, or being too tired to cook dinner in the evenings, so plan ahead. Meal prepping is great for the busy worker during the week, or sign up to a meal delivery service that takes all the hard work away from you, to ensure that you still get all the goodness into you without the effort attached to it.
- Turn it off – Whether it’s your phone, the television, radio, social media – turn it off. Have a break from it and ‘digital detox’ as they say. Now more than ever we are continually ‘connected’ and this can have all kinds of negative results on the mind and body. It’s pretty simple to click the off button once in a while and enjoy being in the present moment, but rarely do we allow that space and time for it – factor it into your day even for just an hour.
- Say no – Being a people pleaser to the detriment of oneself is not a badge of honour to wear proudly and will only end in tears, as you continue to say yes to everything and everyone who wants a piece of you. You are only human and have one life to live, so live it for you and not for others. Granted there will be friends and family, or work colleagues and staff that you have or want to be there for from time to time, but keep boundaries in place and only do what you feel you are able to do and don’t be afraid to say no once in a while without the need for explanation.
- Find your sanctuary – Appoint a safe space for yourself, somewhere you can go near or far that makes you happy and feel grounded and at peace. This can be someone else’s home (as long as you know them!), a particular park bench, a village you like to visit or your greenhouse -wherever you can escape to for even ten minutes to readjust, recuperate and rest before going again. We all need to recharge and holidays are a great way of doing this, but aren’t always attainable or regular, so allocate your own local safe space and sanctuary and visit once in a while when you recognise that you need to recharge your batteries.
- It’s good to talk – Communication is everything, so keep talking. Whether it is to your loved ones, hairdresser, therapist, or a stranger at the bus stop – having a natter works wonders for the mind, so get whatever it is off your chest as fast as you can and don’t let it fester. Famous activist Maggie Kuhn once said: “Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.” Wise words.
- Balance the scales – It’s easier said than done, but work life balance is so important now more than ever, with the rat race we live in, the external stresses of the world around us and the fact that we are connected to everything happening on a daily basis – constantly. It is exhausting and so ensuring that we give ourselves as much ‘rest and recouperation time’ as we do ‘on the go time’ is super important for our mind, body and souls and to ensure a blissful night’s sleep.
- Do what makes you happy – Life is too short to spend hours and hours per day in a job you dislike, or spending time with someone that makes you unhappy – making even just small changes can offer huge results on your happiness, so if you’ve been procrastinating then ask yourself why? What is holding you back from taking that leap? No one ever regretted making the change they were once scared to make that resulted in them being happier than they were before.
Fiona Duncan-Steer, RSViP
www.fionaduncansteer.com www.rsvipnetwork.co.uk
See this column in the September edition of East Midlands Business Link Magazine.
